However, the more I talk to women entrepreneurs who are getting in the game and starting their own businesses, and as I reflect on my own journey, I realize that we may be getting in the business game but we are not actually getting in the MONEY game and making ourselves available to receive. It’s easy to complain that you don’t have enough and want more, or set really high bold money goals each month, but how available are you actually making yourself to get the money you say you desire?
Here are some ways I see women holding themselves back and not making themselves available to receive money. See how many you relate to:
1) Not reaching out to potential clients, i.e. people who really need your help. I can relate to this a lot, because I’ve done it myself. It’s much easier to play small, hold yourself back, and get caught up in your fears of what others think of you, if they will like you, etc. than taking a step out of your comfort zone and putting yourself out there. But you are in business to HELP or SERVE people in some way, and you’re certainly not doing that if you’re sitting on the sidelines surfing Facebook, complaining about how you’re never going to be able to leave your J-O-B, or not reaching out to potential clients, who will ultimately PAY you.
Hear me out: there are people who need your help and would be willing to pay for your services RIGHT now. Not in a month after you’ve perfected your website, not in a year after you’ve received more training, not after you’ve gotten your life or your sh*t together. RIGHT NOW, like this week. And you’re not doing them any favors (or yourself) if you’re not reaching out to others you could help. Not to mention, you are definitely not making yourself available to receive money!! See how this works?
2) Not owning your value, charging what you’re worth, or raising your prices/rates after a certain amount of time. Yep, I’ve done this one as well, and you probably have, too. When you first start out a business, you’re happy if ANYONE pays you, let alone what you’re worth. You’re just ecstatic that you got through the sales process and actually got someone to sign up or buy your product or service. Eventually, though, you need to step out of that and step INTO owning what you’re worth and actually ask for that (and get it!). And yes, over time that rate needs to rise to match your expanded experience level.
Again, you’re not helping anyone (most definitely not yourself) by charging low rates. You’re also somewhat insulting the other person by saying, “I don’t believe you could afford a higher rate, so I’m charging you a super low fee.” What kind of message does that send? Well it sends the other person the message that you don’t think they’re capable of finding money to pay you, and it sends the Universe a larger message as a whole that you don’t think you’re worth very much. How are you going to make the money you want if you’re not asking for it, or showing up to receive it?
3) Not hiring a coach or mentor who can help you fast-track your results. I will say this again and again, until you really hear it! Hire a coach, like NOW. Not in a month, not after you try doing it alone for another year, not after you buy yet another home-study course that sits on your shelf collecting dust, but now, asap. It doesn’t have to be me, and it certainly doesn’t have to be the most expensive one, but you are really short-changing yourself and not making yourself truly available for money if you’re not working with a coach or mentor. I actually work with several at one time, and so does every successful women entrepreneur I know.
Unless you already have the results you want, you need to be working with someone who knows more than you on a consistent basis. Otherwise, what happens is you get stuck, spin your wheels, and worst-case scenario quit your business or never quite get it off the ground. It’s not because it wasn’t meant to be, it’s because you didn’t get help where you needed it. A coach knows the pitfalls, has been through it all before, and will show you what needs to happen to make the money you want. My results really took off when I started working with mentors.
Also, don’t shortchange yourself by investing the lowest possible amount in a mentor. People think they will invest AFTER they get the money, but it doesn’t usually work that way. You invest BEFORE you know where the money’s going to come from, and then that coach or mentor helps you quickly make back that money you invested to work with them (if they’re doing their job and if you take action). Remember, what you put out comes back to you. So if you’re only paying the bare minimum when investing in coaches, how much do you think your clients are going to pay you? When you invest more in a coach or mentor, not only do you send out a different signal to the Universe, but that coach or mentor will also teach you how to receive those higher rates!
And you have now made yourself available for a heftier financial payoff. <3