Today officially marks the first day of the rest of my life.
For years I have been working a full-time corporate job, and then rushing home at the end of every day to do coaching calls with clients. I kept waiting for that “perfect” time when I would be able to leave my job and be a full-time coach. But I finally realized there was never going to be a perfect time, unless I made the decision myself and moved forward! And that time is NOW.
As I have come to grips with this decision, I have been faced with tremendous fear about what other people would think, criticism and doubt from others, fear of being seen for who I really am, fear that others would leave me, and of course that big ole fear, the financial fear; i.e. what am I going to do without a steady pay check?!
You may know the quote that says, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone,” and oh how true that is! The really, really good stuff out there lies just outside your comfort zone, typically right on the other side of that big fat FEAR that is currently smack in front of your face and probably the only thing you can concentrate on right now. I won’t lie, at times the fear felt unbearable and I didn’t know if I could take it anymore. I am very sensitive and feel my feelings intensely!
But I have had to learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, and that has made all the difference in the world.
And that is what I want to share with you in this post.
Once you learn to go into the fear, rather than running away from it, you will find that a whole new world opens up that you never even knew existed. We are so conditioned to believe that fear is bad and that we should avoid it at all costs, but I’ve gotta tell you, fear ain’t going away anytime soon! It’s just your body’s natural reaction to when you’re about to go outside your comfort zone and do something new or something that may have ended badly for you when you were a kid. It’s really a form of protection, but a lot of times it stops us in our tracks when we should actually be moving forward and facing that fear head-on.
I posted a message on Facebook this morning announcing that I was leaving the corporate world, and people I never thought would be supportive in a million years were “liking” my picture and sending me private messages to say “Congrats.” And a whole new community of people who are also self-employed entrepreneurs and on a similar path as me seemed to “appear out of nowhere” to congratulate me. They’ve actually been there the whole time waiting to embrace me, but I hadn’t fully stood in my power yet or let my light shine so I couldn’t see them and they couldn’t see me.
Can you relate? Where is that area in your life where you are holding yourself back, scared (or even terrified) to take a step and find out what is on the other side of that fear? Maybe you’re wanting to leave the corporate world like me and run your own business. Or maybe you are just aching to show up as your true self for the first time in your life and be accepted by family and friends. Trust me, I know how uncomfortable and lonely it can be! It has taken me YEARS (and tons of coaches) to get to this point. But it really feels great being on the other side now :)
If you are facing something similar in your own life right now, start out by taking little steps into the unknown and do one thing each day that scares you. It could be something simple like posting a status update on Facebook that you never would have posted in the past, or something bigger like telling your boss or spouse about your future plans to ultimately run your own business. You’ll know what the right step is, because as soon as you think about it you will feel that fear and want to run in the other direction!
If you need support in this, just shoot me an email and I will be right there with you to help you through this next phase. I literally had to call up a friend once and ask her to stay on the phone with me as I pushed send on a status update I was posting on Facebook. If you need that, just let me know and I will be there for you, free of charge!