Since I announced that, I’ve been getting a lot of private messages on Facebook about how I finally made the leap. I realized it came down to three major things for me.
In order to leave the corporate world behind and officially strike out on my own I had to:
-Heal my (dysfunctional) relationship with money so I would be okay with not having a steady paycheck each month
-Get over the fear of what others think and their own fears about what is possible
-Learn the art of client enrollment – which is pretty easy once you tackle the two above!
I’ve decided I’m going to dedicate a blog post to each of these areas specifically and this one will focus on healing your relationship with money.
The other day I was talking to a good friend who has two small children and rarely leaves the house. I asked her why she spent so much time at home and her response was that she doesn’t want to pay a babysitter. Now, I know that babysitters are much more expensive than when I was growing up but I would probably go crazy spending all that time at home with two small children! I had to go to Starbucks just to work today to get away from my hyperactive little puppy :)
Can you see my friend’s relationship with money?
If you look closely, you will see that she’s coming from a place of lack, limitation, and contraction.
I know this particular pattern well, because I spent most of my life entangled in that relationship! Always terrified that my money would run out, I went from job to job, even though deep down I knew I wanted to be a full-time entrepreneur and coach. Honestly, for a long time I didn’t really even know you could make money outside of a job! For as far back as I can remember, I was scared to spend any money on myself outside of the necessities and I was a HUGE saver, which looked positive from the outside but deep down I felt like I was dying from so much constriction and fear. Not a great relationship with money there!
Over the past year I committed to transforming my relationship with money, and now I know that doing this was one of the things that finally allowed me to follow my passion and run my coaching business full-time. I also spend a lot more freely on myself, because I know that the Universe is abundant, that there is plenty of money, and that money always comes back. It’s just energy after all ;)
If you want to transform your relationship with money, keep reading for a few places you can start.
1) Figure out what your current relationship with money is. To do this, imagine that money is a person and that your relationship with money is actually a relationship with a person. What does that look like? Hint: don’t be surprised when your relationship with money ends up resembling other close relationships you have in your life!! Have you heard that how you do one thing is how you do everything?
2) Decide what you want your new relationship with money to look like. Again, imagine that your relationship with money was like a relationship with a real person. How would your ideal relationship look? Mine looks like: Money is always there for me, Money is always surprising me and showing up when I least expect it, Money is always providing for me and buying me gifts, Money supports me and wants me to pursue my life passions. What does your ideal relationship look like?
3) Finally, begin taking baby steps to create that new relationship with money now! For me, since I was always in hyper-saving mode this looked like spending a little more and trusting that the money wouldn’t run out. I started making small purchases of things I never would have considered purchasing in the past. This raised my vibration and also helped me to TRUST more! If you are an over-spender, this might look like cutting back a bit and noticing how that feels in your body. Learn how to tolerate those uncomfortable feelings you get when you don’t buy everything you want.
You can do this! A year ago I didn’t even know I had a relationship with money or what one was. Now I have learned to rely on money and know it is always there for me. Money and I have struck up a beautiful relationship, that I know will last for many years to come.