And yet inevitably, before I even finish telling them about the program (and long before I’ve even told them the price) they tell me they don’t have the money and can’t afford anything right now. Again, before I’ve even told them the price! It breaks my heart every time because I know I can help these people get to the other side of their money blocks, and yet I have been there, back when my relationship with money was so messed up and I lived in constant fear of running out of money (no matter how much was in my bank account).
Most of these lovely people are speaking with me in the first place because they are sick of letting money control their life, are tired of always having to obsess about money, and are ready to be DONE with their state of perpetual lack and not enough-ness.
They want to live a life of freedom, where they never have to worry about money again and can believe deep-down that the Universe is abundant and that money is always there for them (even if an excessive amount of money is not in their bank account at that very moment). They are ready to trade in their stories of never having enough and always shrinking, to feeling supported by money and being able to expand as large as they possibly can! I lived in that space for many, many years and stayed in jobs I hated just for the money, not to mention relationships that definitely didn’t serve my highest purpose.
But when it becomes time to sign up for a program that could change their life and heal their dysfunctional relationship with money once and for all (my program or someone else’s), many of these potential ideal clients get stopped in their tracks by the VERY same pattern that has gotten them to this point of “stuckness” in the first place.
They say they can’t afford it, don’t have the money, can’t imagine where the money would come from, and will just continue living their life the way it is and hope that someday they’ll be able to change their relationship with money and start living a happier, better life.
Oh, how I’ve been there! And it is a very scary place to be.
I remember the first time I invested in working with a high-level coach (we’re talking several thousands of dollars). When she told me her price, I told her there was no way I could possibly afford that because I didn’t have that money in the bank and didn’t know when I would (it was a very LARGE amount). However, she said something to me which was so brilliant that it changed my financial destiny forever. She said, “It sounds like you’re coming from a place of fear, which is the same pattern you currently have with your finances that you’re trying to get RID OF. You just told me that you no longer want your bank account to control your life, and yet that is exactly what you are doing in his very moment.”
Hmmmm! She made a good point, and this was definitely a pattern I really wanted to shift, but how in the world was I supposed to come up with the money? It wasn’t in my bank account, I wasn’t planning on playing the lottery anytime soon, and I wasn’t due for a raise at work for at least another year.
And then I got it, the big lesson I was supposed to learn and the lesson I now help my own clients learn.
You don’t always have the money sitting in your bank account before you invest in working with a high-end mentor, or book that trip to France you’ve been dreaming about for a year, or sign up for those classes you know would take your business or personal fulfillment to the next level. However, if you truly desire to heal your relationship with money, on a very deep level, you go for it anyway because that shows the Universe that you really trust and believe that the Universe is abundant and is always providing for you, and that shift alone causes your circumstances to change.
There is MORE than enough money in the world to pay for your desires many, many times over.
However, if you’re coming from a place of lack and not enough it can be really hard to see that.
Been there, definitely done that.
Most people think that comfort and security and freedom comes after you have more money in the bank, but it actually comes BEFORE the money is there. This is why so many lottery winners end up broke in 2-4 years after winning the lottery, because they still feel as insecure and anxious around money as they did when they didn’t have any and they do things to push the money away. This also explains why some billionaires (yes, billionaires) still feel anxious and scared around money, because they haven’t healed their inner insecurity around money yet.
If you truly want to get to a place where you are more comfortable with money and trust that it will be there for you, at some point you will need to take a LEAP in order to allow the Universe to show you that money indeed is there for you (you’ve heard “Leap and the net appears,” right?). Obviously, this doesn’t mean taking financial risks or spending money carelessly. But if in your heart there is something you think you are truly meant to do, then go for it and trust that somehow, someway, the money will shows up. And here’s a hint, it always does!
In my case, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I wanted to sign up to work with that high-level coach and I told her I would get back to her in a few days. I still didn’t have a clue how I would get the money, but literally the minute I got off the phone with her I opened some mail that was sitting next to me on the couch. I opened some financial statements I hadn’t paid attention to in months, and I “found” a large portion of the money in some investment accounts I had opened years ago and had completely forgotten about. As I opened those financial statements, the money was staring me right in the face! And believe it or not, this has happened to me twice now!
If you want something badly enough, and it is line with your true desires, the money will be there for you and may already be there for you!
Even if it is not sitting there right next to you on the couch like mine was, you can receive it out of the blue the next day in a MYRIAD of ways. The Universe is so abundant, you can’t even begin to imagine all the different ways the Universe can provide you with the money! You don’t have to have investments, or a business, or even a job to get the money; the Universe is wayyy more creative than we are and will get you the money however it can.
In order to make that happen, though, you have to be open to that possibility by beginning to trust and believe that money is truly here for you.
So let me ask you: Do you believe that money is really here for you? Do you believe it is here to support you in achieving the life of your dreams? Do you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it is already here, waiting patiently for you to create a more loving relationship with it and finally give it that chance to be there for you?